Every second, every minute, every hour of every day people pass away, they die, all over the world people are dying and all over the world people are being born – new generations, new lives ready to be formed, ready to be lived, you should never let them go. Just like you and me.
That’s why it’s strange, we know people die, we know we can’t live for all eternity, so why does it come as such a shock to us when someone we know passes. A relative, close or distant, a friend, new or old, each and every person who has touched our lives in some way. It is more often than not an awful shock when we receive the news saying they’re no longer with us, that’s what hurts the most. Don’t you think?
Knowing you can no longer see them, spend time with them, speak to them. That’s what breaks your heart, day in day out.
I think I can speak for everyone reading this, that that is in actual fact correct, when someone close to us, close to our hearts passes, the pain is so indescribable you feel like you cannot carry on, and yet you have to? You can’t stop living your life because someones has ended, cruel as it may seem it is true. I speak from experience when I say that, as today marks the 4th anniversary since my Grandad passed and this year it will be 14 years since my Granny passed too.
When trying to move on all you can think of, or try to, is that they are now in a better place, away from the world we continue to live in and onto a better, more peaceful one. You think of the memories you shared together, the highs the lows; but you don’t value one memory over the other, how could you? You picture their smile, hear their laugh, remember their stories, old and new, funny and not, even the ones you never thought you would remember.
The little things are what you hold on to, and although, although it kills you that they are not with you anymore, those are the things which remain. You cannot change the memories you had with a person after they’re gone, what you can do though, is treasure them. Hold them in your heart and don’t forget, never forget – even if time passes and it becomes a month, six months, a year or even ten.
Never let them go.
Whether you have experienced what I am talking about or whether you haven’t, remember that each day is a blessing and you never know when someone who is such a big part of your life may no longer be there with you. Tell them you love them, hug them and never let them go. Now come on, go find the special person or people in your lives and let them know you love them, what are you waiting for?
Rest In Peace, you will always be in my heart, no matter what.
(All photographs featured in this blog post are my own).